Becoming a parent is an extremely stressful life occurrence. Whenever you’re about to go into a new phase of life or achieve something, people always try to tell you how it’s going to be. People warn you about the joys and pains that you might encounter, or how the system is built, so you can utilize it better than they did. Everyone will offer their advice and their experiences of how certain things went for them, but make no mistake, nothing will ever fully prepare you for what you are about to face.
Don’t get me wrong, the experiences of others can help us make the proper adjustments to our own thinking and cover potential gaps that we might have missed initially. Then we go and gain more experience so that when we offer our advice, it's more developed than the previous advice you received. On a large scale, this is how they make medical and scientific breakthroughs. On a smaller scale, it’s how teams can learn and make adjustments where needed. A similar example is using history books and documents to learn from the mistakes of previous nations and wars.
Evolution is proof that even on a molecular level, all life is capable of implementing the feedback of the environment and the experiences of past generations. Afterwards, they build on them with their own experiences and add them to the database of information. Life itself follows an iterative pattern designed to respond and adapt to change. The ability to learn and implement change is a divine gift given to us directly by our Heavenly Parents. So that we can take information from others’ past experiences, apply it to our situation, and build more experiences that can later be shared and applied to others.
Being a parent is extremely stressful, but it's also the most fulfilling thing I have in my life. I got a lot of advice from my parents and others, but that will never be a replacement for what I experience every day with my daughter. But I know I’m gaining more information to share with her when she has her own family